"When you are not pursuing your goal, you are literally committing spiritual suicide." This is a viral video going around from Rick Hall saying, "Before you make your goals for 2014, watch this video," and it was shared to me by my brother who gives it all he has every day.
Things to Remember When Setting Your Goals
(from the video)
1.It will never be the "perfect time."
We see this a lot in the entertainment industry. "If I had a reel, then I would be successful." "My agent isn't calling me." "My look isn't right." My brother reminded me that you are working for yourself, not your agent. If this is your dream, you need to put more effort into it than everyone else, and you cannot live by emotions. One day, you will feel like working out. One day you won't. If you lived off of emotions everyday you would be right back to where you started, no where and not moving forward.
2. "Greatness is a lot of things done well."
My friend, Sarah Seman reminded me of this when she was training for her marathon, almost 27 miles from Orange County to Santa Monica. Every day she made a plan, how many miles she was going to run each day, what she was going to eat, how to keep her body and mind strong. But she did it, and she didn't do it over night, it took months of training.
3. "The biggest enemy you have to deal with, with yourself. If there is no enemy within the enemy outside can do us no harm." In my fusion yoga class on the first day I told the instructor, "I don't know if I can keep up with everyone else." He said, "If that's the reason why you're here, then get out now."
It is not you against everyone else. It is you against yourself. From that day on I did whatever it took to not look around. I went to the front of the room near the wall, I closed my eyes during poses, I focused on the meditation and the breathing. Within 2 weeks I was one of the people that others asked how to do poses.
Be the best version of yourself. You cannot make yourself into another person, and you shouldn't want to. There is a reason God gave you your body, your mind and your heart, strengthen what he's given you and stop looking around to compare.
4. "It's a lonely feeling when people don't believe in you anymore." Every success takes time and many people will think you're crazy. In today's society, if we don't see immediate results we immediately associate that with failure. Don't let your success be dependent on other's thoughts. Don't let their doubt control your actions. Keep moving forward toward your dream. Cut people off who don't believe in you. As my yoga instructor said, fill yourself up with the good and eliminate the bad, they are taking up room for more good.
5. "If you don't accomplish your dreams, you will be working for someone else to accomplish theirs." This is something I find myself telling my friends often. I am not in this business to assist others in their dreams. If momentarily we may be, we must learn from our experiences and keep moving forward, never feel comfortable. If we get stuck in assisting for too long, we will always look at ourselves as assistants to others, versus the ones who have experience and drive to run the projects.
6. "There are things that you think you may never need to know, but could save your life from just knowing it one time." This is something I have experienced from my time in Italy. I have studied French for about 8 years now and being in Sicily, where very few people speak English, knowing French has been my biggest Savior (besides Jesus of course). I would have never thought the languages would be so similar or that it would have helped, but it did in very big ways.
6. "When you die, leave no opportunity left behind. Accomplish every single thing you were to accomplish."
This is something my friend Aaron reminds me. He lives life like a crazy man from the outside, living in weird places and doing adrenaline-packed things, but on the inside is extremely strategic in his planning and what he does. He invests every day into multiple businesses, becoming the best of the best. The average person would most likely not have the patience or the stamina to carry out the mundane duties it takes to make his videos so complex, but he puts in the effort- putting out outstanding products instead of just average, and it pays off. He would always tell me, he always wants to take every opportunity, and he does.
7. "If it was easy everyone would do it." My father, who has led multi-million dollar deals in the software industry for more than 30 years reminds me this every day when my patience is running thin. It is easy to be a loser. It takes no effort. As the video says, most people are wishing and dreaming that they didn't have to work their average jobs in which they feel complacent, instead of actually working toward their goals.